Statistics suggest that so many break-ups happen around Valentine’s Day. This day is not just torturous for single people, but also for people who are in relationships. Expectations, unnecessary comparisons and social media declarations of ‘Aww!’ ‘I am so lucky’ ‘I have the best husband/boyfriend’ can make people feel quite miserable about themselves. The only people who actually benefit from this day are businesses that sell teddy bears, cards , roses, chocolates and other gifts.
If you are feeling low before Valentine’s day, please read the following. Hope it makes you feel better. 🙂
- It is just another day
I don’t remember the story behind Valentine’s day. My earliest memories of Valentine’s Day are from my college days when I was teased that my birthday (14th November) comes nine months after Valentine’s day! I also remember a teacher accepting that he could not possibly teach on this day because it is like a “tyohar” for us! I think the first time I heard about Valentine’ day was when I was a teenager. This day should be celebrated if it makes you happy. But if it is an add on in any way, then please choose to ignore it. It is not at all important and probably people in the generation before us lived happily before knowing about it!
2. Don’t expect much from your partner
Anniversaries are important. Birthdays are important. But if he/she does not give you a gift or forgets about Valentine’s Day, do not make an issue out of it. There are bigger things to fight about!
3. Being Single
If you are single, and you feel bad looking at couples on this day, just remember you have something that these people don’t have. You have hope. You have hope of meeting someone. You have hope of finding love. Enjoy that thought!
4. Don’t be harsh on yourself / your partner
No matter who you are, whether you are in a good relationship or a bad relationship, you are about to dump someone, you are newly single or single for a long time, just remember that another human being, even someone you love or is supposed to love you is just another human being. Human beings have limitations. They will hurt you, they will not understand you, and they will do things that you don’t understand.
5. Love yourself
Valentine’s day is about love and we start analyzing our love life more on this day than required. Please don’t take drastic decisions on this day! And if you are worrying too much about how to spend the day when the whole world seems to be screaming about celebrating it, and you have nothing special planned just do something nice for yourself. Like a spa!
Most importantly , don’t feel bad. No matter who you are and what situation you are in. Relationships are tough. Always. Don’t let this day make it worse for you.
For all those who have plans for this day, wish you the best! Have fun!